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Free Self-Esteem Quiz

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Questions and Answers

Does Gay Bashing raise self esteem and or self respect?

I was just curious if this was true. I have to be honest I use to gay bash as a kid, and it made me feel so bad that I would cry. So I decided to be true to myself and come out. To this day I wondered what went through those getting picked on. You know, like do you take it personal, or do you just ignore it

Then I'm curious about those who bash (big grin). You know exactley who you are! What goes through your mind as you get on here abnd type away your frustrations and fears. Are you concerned that you may be gay or curious? I know how you feel, I use to be pressured into making comments about others. But then I realized why I did it. It was becasue I was gay. I didn't want anyone to know so I put up this homophobic front, and I thought no one would suspect it then. Well I hate making fun of others, and so I stopped doing it and I beame true to myself. Bashers, what is your excuse? Why do you bash us and then report us?

Community and friends please feel free to comment.
I'm looking for honesty not imaturity.

Posted by Adam
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FRONTLINE has reproduced this
"Wright, Adams, and Bernat Homophobia Scale"

Http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/…

Check it out!

Body dysmorphic disorder or just f-ed up self esteem?

Hello. So all the Dr. Phils and Oprahs out there feel free to join in and diagnose me! Legitimate professionals with actual knowledge are welcome too.

K.

Well, as a child I suppose I've always been fairly shy with relatively lower self esteem. Fast forward to 2010, and at 19 I've outgrown the shyness for the most part. The low self esteem is a b*tch though.

What bothers me is that it mostly stems from insecurities regarding my physical appearance. I guess others perceive me to be attractive.. I've been stopped on the street and told I was 'beautiful', while visiting my grandma in hospital some nurse said I was 'very pretty', etc, but whatever. I don't need comments like that. What's the point when I can't see it in myself? I look in the mirror and all I see is me. What angers me more is that I know a person's merit can't be measured by physical attractiveness. Who cares if you win the genetic lottery?!

The thing is though, this REALLY bothers me. Last year for e.g., I cancelled all my plans with friends, and refused to see anyone for around 5 weeks.. Even missing a couple of 18ths and jeopardising friendships. I don't have a camera, and I can't stand to see myself in photos. Wth?

The point of all this verbosity is: I clearly have issues.

Diagnose me, prescribe me drugs or recommend therapy. Something.
I just want to be happy with me.
:c.

Posted by lame
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View the post on self esteem at Http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_2… Check out www.bddcentral/mainpage2.aspx and Http://www.ocdla.com/bodydysmorphicdisor… and www.mental-health-abc.com and www.psychforums.com/viewforum.php and Http://p066.ezboard.com/bbodydysmorphicd… and Http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/b… and Http://bddvictims.lefora.com/headlines/ Practice a relaxation method, daily, and when needed, such as www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.html or Http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody… and/or Tai Chi, Qi Gong, or yoga. Other things worth trying: Enter "EFT" in the searchbar, at www.mercola.com (free), & "EFT therapists (professional is recommended) a good tryout, to see if it helps you. There is a version for use in public places, (you could claim to have a headache, as you use the acupressure massage/tapping on your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: repeating to yourself in your mind): "Even though I have a distorted body image, I deeply and completely accept myself". All of these things are designed to bolster the central sense of identity, enable emotional centering, and changing the focus from that of a person's appearance. When you notice something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progress.

Having identified and labelled it, visualise a large red "STOP!" sign, and/or possibly a stern faced person wagging an index finger at you in a negative manner, then say to yourself as forcefully as you can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic". In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version. Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method. It may well be worthwhile going to the Groups, at Myspace, Google, and Yahoo, to find others with the disorder, and see what has worked for them. View: Http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/about… and take the quiz at Http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2… Print the result; take to a doctor, and ask for an appropriate referral. BOOKS: "Picture perfect : what you need to feel better about your body" Jill S. Zimmerman Rutledge. By Health Communications, c2007, & "Feeling Good – the new mood therapy" by David D. Burns, from your bookstore, or www.amazon.com for this, and do a search of books, CD's & videos on BDD, while you are there. Try the support groups, chat sites, and forums: www.bddcentral.comhttp://www.thebddfoundation.org/self_help/resources/resources_otherbddsites.htm & Http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/…

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